Inner Shift With Faezeh
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Each episode explores the challenges and lessons that shape us, from navigating heartbreak and building healthy relationships to creating meaningful habits, finding purpose, improving our health, and designing a life that feels aligned and fulfilling.
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Inner Shift With Faezeh
#54: The Fear of Hope: How Old Wounds Make Us Self-Sabotage
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In this episode, I share a realization that changed the way I understand my own patterns. I noticed something painful but important: when things start getting really good, a part of me gets scared. Not because I don’t want happiness — but because being hopeful has hurt me before.
Over time, disappointment can quietly become part of our identity. And when life begins to move in the direction we once dreamed of, our nervous system doesn’t always recognize it as safe. Instead of enjoying it, we start questioning it, picking it apart, or even sabotaging it — just to protect ourselves from the possibility of being hurt again.
I experienced this recently around my birthday. The people closest to me — my partner, my sister, and my family — made it one of the most thoughtful and meaningful celebrations I’ve ever had. The planning, the gifts, the moments we shared, the dinner, the spa, the little details… it was everything I didn’t even realize I needed.
But the night before, I had a complete crash emotionally. I realized that part of me was terrified to be hopeful again. My mind was looking for problems, trying to convince me it wouldn’t work out, because that’s what it had learned to expect.
What I’m reflecting on in this episode is how our wounds can make us resist the very happiness we want — and how healing sometimes looks like letting ourselves experience joy, even when it feels unfamiliar.
More than anything, this episode is about gratitude. Gratitude for the people who stayed patient with me, who helped my nervous system feel safe enough to experience love, care, and abundance in a deeper way.
And realizing that maybe healing isn’t just about surviving pain —
it’s about learning how to receive the good when it finally arrives.